Have you been hearing about the claim that if you ask 36 questions of a stranger, you will quite likely develop the kind of intimacy that will lead to romance? During the days leading up to Valentine's Day, the popularity of the 36 questions skyrocketed when Mandy Len Catron wrote an article sharing the research of Dr. Aron about this phenomenon. Catron added her own twist to the experiment when she suggested staring into the eyes of the other person for 4 minutes following the Q&A session.
Falling in Love with Your Life
As I read over the 36 questions, I was struck by how valuable they would be, not only for falling in love with someone else, but also for falling in love with oneself. The questions require us to reflect upon our likes, passions, experiences and aspirations in ways that help us get in touch with who we really are. When we tell stories about our lives, we realize just how fortunate we are to be alive, to have had the remarkable experience of life. And when we "stare" our lives in the face, we deepen our wisdom about how to navigate our life journey with grace and gratitude.
What is it that you most want others to understand about you?
What are three things you really want to know about someone else? How freely do you share these things with others? How generous are you in sharing who you are with others?
On a scale of 1-5 (5 high), how much in love are you with your life? What would it take to get that to a 5 on a consistent basis?